Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Path

Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Path

If you could consider a committed, intimate relationship as a Spiritual Path, you may find a new possibility for healing and joy that can bring a greater truth, vitality, and aliveness to your relationship.  For many people, an intimate relationship is about getting their needs met, feeling safe and loved by another.  This can often be a complicated arrangement that creates issues of misattunement with each other, such as feeling ignored, misunderstood, forgotten, criticized, shamed, betrayed, hurt, etc. Instead, consider viewing an intimate relationship as being a form of a spiritual quest or path for learning how to connect more deeply within yourself.

Falling in Love

In the first bloom of a romantic connection, you fall in love and it feels ecstatic!  This falling sensation is one of letting go of control (with little fear), of surrendering to a sense of yourself that is beyond you. It is akin to the ecstatic feeling of spiritual enlightenment.  As Marianne Williamson puts it;

“From a spiritual perspective, the original high of a romantic connection is thrilling …. For in a quick moment, a gift from the gods, we are likely to suspend our judgment of the other, not because we are temporarily insane, but because we are temporarily sane. We are having what you might call a mini-enlightenment experience. Enlightenment is not unreal; enlightenment—or pure love—is all that is real. Enlightenment is when we see not as through a glass darkly, but truly face-to-face.”  – Marianne Williamson

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Co-creating The New Emerging Masculine! Healing The Wounded Negative Masculine (Part 3 of 3)

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Masculine Feminine Soul – Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

Awakening to mankind’s responsibility to heal the inner wound of our collective wounded masculine, also heals the wounded relationship with the feminine.  As we all learn how to relate differently in a way that is more inclusive, this paradoxically allows more individuality to co-exist.  With a commitment to our personal growth, together we are co-creating the new emerging masculine.

Like the need for bio-diversity to strengthen the resilience of inter-dependent micro systems on the planet, our collective need to learn how to operate in a way that includes an ability to respond and support all of our needs – men, women, children, elders, plants, animals, water and more!  We can ultimately also shift our profound and primary relationship with the Earth.

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A New Masculine is Emerging: Is this in you? Healing The Wounded Negative Masculine (Part 1 of 3)

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The New Emerging Masculine – A man who is heart-centred, more intuitive and deeply connected with Nature | Blog by Ingrid Cryns © June 2015

In celebration of Father’s Day this month as well as the sun energy of Summer Solstice yesterday, I have been thinking about the men in my life. It is a time to honour the healthy masculine in all of us. I have begun to notice a shift in the world and have caught glimpses of a new masculine emerging and growing amongst us.

For years, I have seen many distorted forms of the masculine. One form is through dysfunctional corporation structures that continue to operate in an increasing chaos that doesn’t make a lot of sense any more.  Organizations like FIFA world soccer is falling apart due to the financial greed of its leaders, or the Canadian Armed Forces, who are struggling with its internal sexual discrimination, harassment or abuse issues.

I’ve heard many stories in the news or from my clients of corporate organizations, school boards and police forces full of corruption, mismanagement or abuse within its power structures. The financial power structures of many countries seem to be falling apart as well. Let alone, all the men who have emotionally or physically abused their children, who are mentally ill-at-ease, or who have abandoned or neglected their spouses or kids. It’s really a mess out there and much of it is based on a controlling, competitive, male dominated power or hierarchical structure that is supposed to support its individual members, but actually doesn’t seem to at all.

Not only is the masculine aspect in men only, it exists as well in the inner psyche of women too.  Our left brain and right side of the body holds our masculine qualities.  These qualities can appear in our psyche as distinct aspects such as:

doing, linear/hierarchical logical thinking, giving, organizing sequentially, swift decisive action, passionate, protection, freedom, discipline, direction, dominant, aggression, hard, strong, competitive and independent.

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Healing A Negative Mother Wound Inside Of You Mothers (Part 3 of 4)

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Healing a Negative Mother Wound

Healing a negative mother wound inside of you is inter-related to the healing that our entire planet needs! Our earth is calling us now, to come back and listen to her needs; which is also all of our needs, collectively.  Our survival is deeply inter-connected as a species to Her. She is out of balance and is shifting with enormous physical changes and more erratic weather patterns.  She is asking us to change ourselves in how we relate to her. Are we able to change and respond in time as a collective community?

In the western world, many women were told by Dr Spock in the 60’s to not pick up their child when s/he was crying.  This created a society of adults who learned to shut down their feelings and not respond with love to their own personal needs.  We have evolved collectively as a culture with schizoid tendencies to ignore the body’s needs and feelings and to be highly narcissistic. Many of us have learned to not respond in true empathy to another’s needs.  Large corporations, in fact, essentially operate with this model and it appears that many country governments do as well!

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The Negative Mother Archetype Mothers (Part 2 of 4)

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The Negative Mother archetype is represented in our culture often as the archetypes of the Hag, the Witch, the Evil Sorceress, the Seductress, the Black Madonna, the Prostitute and the Raging Bitch! 

An archetype is defined as a form of consciousness that is understood as a more collective aspect of awareness. Often these darker feminine archetypal forms include an awareness of the intuitive side of the feminine as well – that was feared and often attacked in the past –for example, witches were burned for their deeper wisdom.  Or Christian religions tried to blame Eve for the first Sin in seducing Adam, and sexuality was denigrated as a negative desire – and the Prostitute was born.  Or Islamic religions hid women’s faces and bodies, because men could not be blamed for their sexual desire to want women, so women have to hide their sensual feminine nature.  The Hag is seen as old, harshly critical and cranky, split off from the power of her deeper wisdom, no longer being valued.

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Deep Resilience (Part 2) Spring Back Gracefully from Anything!

Deep Resilience teaches us how to Spring Back Gracefully from Anything!

CLICK HERE for Part 1 – Deep Resilience: How to Thrive in These Crazy Times!

The art of ‘Deep Resilience’ is knowing what you can do and what you need to do on a daily basis to hold your own stability and grounded balance. It allows you to flourish and thrive in today’s challenging environment. It enables you to gracefully spring back from anything!  It truly is harder to feel calm and grounded these days. This is because the ground is actually losing its own magnetic charge! This is due to the toxicity of electromagnetic pollution through cell phone and internet tower frequency waves.

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Deep Resilience (Part 1) How to Thrive in these Crazy Times

Learn how to thrive in these crazy times through Deep Resilience.Have you noticed an unusual intensity surrounding you these days?  Do you feel more anxious, overwhelmed and tired a lot of them time?  Find it difficult to hold your focus or keep on top of your ever lengthening to do lists? Well you aren’t the only one.  Our world is changing faster than most of us can keep up with.  Deep Resilience is a way of responding to these changes by changing how we think and live. Deep Resilience is how we can bounce back quickly, with change from a deeper place of grounded stability.  Thriving is about going beyond just surviving.  We are living in a time of great chaos and it can feel like you are going crazy, just trying to keep up with a sane pace in life.  Finding balance in this whirlwind of unknown futures is an art!

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The Top 3 Tips of Resilient Loving Relationships

Loving CoupleHow do your grow your intimate love relationship to be more resilient to the many shifts, changes or unexpected traumas that life offers us?  Here are the top 3 tips to hold within your hearts so that you can find more love for each other, as you may find yourselves possibly drifting apart;
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Growing Your Love for your Inner Self: Part 3 of 3

body psychotherapist TorontoThe third of a 3 part series of growing your love for your inner self, see also 9 Ways to Nurture Love for Yourself: Part 1, and Cultivating Your Self-Love: Part 2. This blog is about some simple and practical exercises that can help you to explore what is in your heart and to move the energy through to open it up and allow your own love to expand and grow within;

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Reflecting on Facing my Fears Alone……..in the Wilderness: Part 2

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This is Part 2 of a 2 series blog on Facing my Fears Alone in the Wilderness; Click here for Part 1.

Reflecting over those 2 days alone, I felt a beginning peace and contentedness grow within.  Although my journey to get there was fraught with all sorts of mistakes, fumbles, wrong paths taken, I eventually did find my way to a new ‘home’ base. I was persistent, I never gave up, and I faced the unknown with ‘fearlessness’.  Essentially, I felt lots of fear, yet I kept on going, regardless.

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