Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Path

Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Path

If you could consider a committed, intimate relationship as a Spiritual Path, you may find a new possibility for healing and joy that can bring a greater truth, vitality, and aliveness to your relationship.  For many people, an intimate relationship is about getting their needs met, feeling safe and loved by another.  This can often be a complicated arrangement that creates issues of misattunement with each other, such as feeling ignored, misunderstood, forgotten, criticized, shamed, betrayed, hurt, etc. Instead, consider viewing an intimate relationship as being a form of a spiritual quest or path for learning how to connect more deeply within yourself.

Falling in Love

In the first bloom of a romantic connection, you fall in love and it feels ecstatic!  This falling sensation is one of letting go of control (with little fear), of surrendering to a sense of yourself that is beyond you. It is akin to the ecstatic feeling of spiritual enlightenment.  As Marianne Williamson puts it;

“From a spiritual perspective, the original high of a romantic connection is thrilling …. For in a quick moment, a gift from the gods, we are likely to suspend our judgment of the other, not because we are temporarily insane, but because we are temporarily sane. We are having what you might call a mini-enlightenment experience. Enlightenment is not unreal; enlightenment—or pure love—is all that is real. Enlightenment is when we see not as through a glass darkly, but truly face-to-face.”  – Marianne Williamson

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Co-creating The New Emerging Masculine! Healing The Wounded Negative Masculine (Part 3 of 3)

Masculine Feminie Soul - Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

Masculine Feminine Soul – Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

Awakening to mankind’s responsibility to heal the inner wound of our collective wounded masculine, also heals the wounded relationship with the feminine.  As we all learn how to relate differently in a way that is more inclusive, this paradoxically allows more individuality to co-exist.  With a commitment to our personal growth, together we are co-creating the new emerging masculine.

Like the need for bio-diversity to strengthen the resilience of inter-dependent micro systems on the planet, our collective need to learn how to operate in a way that includes an ability to respond and support all of our needs – men, women, children, elders, plants, animals, water and more!  We can ultimately also shift our profound and primary relationship with the Earth.

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The Top 3 Tips of Resilient Loving Relationships

Loving CoupleHow do your grow your intimate love relationship to be more resilient to the many shifts, changes or unexpected traumas that life offers us?  Here are the top 3 tips to hold within your hearts so that you can find more love for each other, as you may find yourselves possibly drifting apart;
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Healthy Boundaries Creates Healthy Relationships

couple relationshipsUnderstanding the need for healthy boundaries helps to establish our separateness from others. And in this awareness that “I am separate from you”, I have a boundary. Having a boundary allows a choice.  This produces healthy relationships.  Boundaries help you be conscious of what you need, what works for you and what clearly doesn’t.  We all have basic human needs for love, connection, touch, to feel supported, and so on, as well as knowing ourselves as separate individuals.  If we are not connected to what we do need, we are unable to ask for it or know when we are not getting our needs met.  This denial or blindness creates expectations that are not voiced, so they are not able to be addressed in a relationship.

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