Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Path

Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Path

If you could consider a committed, intimate relationship as a Spiritual Path, you may find a new possibility for healing and joy that can bring a greater truth, vitality, and aliveness to your relationship.  For many people, an intimate relationship is about getting their needs met, feeling safe and loved by another.  This can often be a complicated arrangement that creates issues of misattunement with each other, such as feeling ignored, misunderstood, forgotten, criticized, shamed, betrayed, hurt, etc. Instead, consider viewing an intimate relationship as being a form of a spiritual quest or path for learning how to connect more deeply within yourself.

Falling in Love

In the first bloom of a romantic connection, you fall in love and it feels ecstatic!  This falling sensation is one of letting go of control (with little fear), of surrendering to a sense of yourself that is beyond you. It is akin to the ecstatic feeling of spiritual enlightenment.  As Marianne Williamson puts it;

“From a spiritual perspective, the original high of a romantic connection is thrilling …. For in a quick moment, a gift from the gods, we are likely to suspend our judgment of the other, not because we are temporarily insane, but because we are temporarily sane. We are having what you might call a mini-enlightenment experience. Enlightenment is not unreal; enlightenment—or pure love—is all that is real. Enlightenment is when we see not as through a glass darkly, but truly face-to-face.”  – Marianne Williamson

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Co-creating The New Emerging Masculine! Healing The Wounded Negative Masculine (Part 3 of 3)

Masculine Feminie Soul - Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

Masculine Feminine Soul – Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

Awakening to mankind’s responsibility to heal the inner wound of our collective wounded masculine, also heals the wounded relationship with the feminine.  As we all learn how to relate differently in a way that is more inclusive, this paradoxically allows more individuality to co-exist.  With a commitment to our personal growth, together we are co-creating the new emerging masculine.

Like the need for bio-diversity to strengthen the resilience of inter-dependent micro systems on the planet, our collective need to learn how to operate in a way that includes an ability to respond and support all of our needs – men, women, children, elders, plants, animals, water and more!  We can ultimately also shift our profound and primary relationship with the Earth.

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The Powerful Old Masculine King is Dead! Healing The Wounded Negative Masculine (Part 2 of 3)

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The Old Masculine King

Jungian Analyst and Author, Robert Bly, has stated in his work long ago that the archetypal image of the powerful, old masculine, King is dead – in our collective psyche!  An archetype is a way of describing our universal need of a particular aspect of within our psychological development of how we think, feel and behave.  The King archetype is one of power, strength and how to fight for our integrity and needs.

Sadly, for many of us, the positive King archetype was killed off in our early childhood from abandonment or abuse, dysfunctional or distorted men and narcissistic to psychopathic fathers. Our idea of what a strong powerful father should be, is actually one that is deeply wounded, weak or insecure, compensating in some form for a deep disconnection from within our psyches. The old masculine lacks a healthy integration with the feminine, an intuitive nature, an inclusive and supportive relationship with others and a way of being that is in harmonious balance with how we live together on this Earth.

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Transforming the Negative Mother into the Divine and Earth Mothers Mothers (Part 4 of 4)

??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Transforming the Negative Mother into the Divine and Earth Mothers heals not only our inner world, but also heals the planet at the same time! When you can learn and integrate the many positive Mother archetypes through a new bonding relationship with a therapist, you can begin to develop fresh neural network pathways of consistent, loving connections.  As you learn how to grow a consistent loving connection within yourself, you develop a capacity to unconditionally love yourself – no matter what happens.  This is what slowly heals and transforms the negative mother within. It also changes how you will relate to others and as we all heal and transform our primary relationship with our inner mothers, the earth’s balance will also change and heal.

Practicing meditative prayers to more spiritual, positive mother archetypes can also begin to replace the negative mother imprint within you.

Positive Mother Archetypes, are the loving nurturer, the caregiver, the wise grandmother, or the mother martyr.  They are found also in the positive side of Isis from Egypt, the Madonna , Mother Mary of Christianity, Kwan Yin from China, Lakshmi from China, and of course, Mother Earth or Gaia, as some call her.

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Healing A Negative Mother Wound Inside Of You Mothers (Part 3 of 4)

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Healing a Negative Mother Wound

Healing a negative mother wound inside of you is inter-related to the healing that our entire planet needs! Our earth is calling us now, to come back and listen to her needs; which is also all of our needs, collectively.  Our survival is deeply inter-connected as a species to Her. She is out of balance and is shifting with enormous physical changes and more erratic weather patterns.  She is asking us to change ourselves in how we relate to her. Are we able to change and respond in time as a collective community?

In the western world, many women were told by Dr Spock in the 60’s to not pick up their child when s/he was crying.  This created a society of adults who learned to shut down their feelings and not respond with love to their own personal needs.  We have evolved collectively as a culture with schizoid tendencies to ignore the body’s needs and feelings and to be highly narcissistic. Many of us have learned to not respond in true empathy to another’s needs.  Large corporations, in fact, essentially operate with this model and it appears that many country governments do as well!

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The Negative Mother, Divine Mother or Earth Mother? Mothers (Part 1 of 4)

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Are you more connected to the negativity of your mother, then your undying love for her?  Do you resent her or feel guilty all the time about her? Do you try to not to be hurt by her critical comments about you – or do you just plain try to avoid her? Maybe you’ve moved to another city or country, to unconsciously place a geographic distance away from her?

These are some of the components of the Negative Mother that you may wonder, how can you change this – because you can’t change your mother! The Negative or Dark Mother can evolve, with awareness and a bit of work into a more satisfying and deeply fulfilling relationship, You can learn how to transmute your needs to the Divine Mother and the Earth Mother.  These two archetypes, spiritual or more earthly entities, have a great bountiful abundance of love and gifts to offer that can heal you and re-organize how you experience yourself and create your chosen reality.  If you are open to changing yourself, the possibilities of deeper connections with the positive, healing forms of Mothers are endless.

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The Top 3 Tips of Resilient Loving Relationships

Loving CoupleHow do your grow your intimate love relationship to be more resilient to the many shifts, changes or unexpected traumas that life offers us?  Here are the top 3 tips to hold within your hearts so that you can find more love for each other, as you may find yourselves possibly drifting apart;
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The Magic of Deep Healing

click image to enlarge Soul Truth by Ingrid Cryns

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Soul Truth by Ingrid Cryns 

Have you been in talk therapy for several years, going over the same stories over and over again and not feeling like you are really changing? You might be ready for a deeper level of healing that goes beyond mind psychotherapy or solo consciousness work. When the body, energy and the magical world of spiritual healing is included, dramatic shifts in reality and core healing can truly occur.

Talk therapy can be very helpful in allowing you to understand yourself and to integrate what is unconscious, conscious. The more we can be aware of what might be our hidden motives or deep wounds underneath a surface emotion or even a somatized body symptom, the more we are likely to be able to address the core of an issue to heal it permanently.

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Cultivating your Self-Love: Part 2 of 3

self loveContinuing from 9 Ways to Nurture Love for Yourself: Part 1, here are a more few ideas that can help you to cultivate your self-love;

4. Commit to Removing the Blocks to Receiving Love:

The nature of love is often about how it gets wounded. A wounded heart can also be a heart that slowly becomes blocked in its ability to receive love. Blocks to the heart, also can block receiving a great vitality and aliveness in how you experience life! And, a blocked heart can create a wall in relationships with friends, work or life in general that reduces your capacity to fully be all that you might desire or dream of. Many people with a wound in their heart will give up in hopelessness or despair that it will never change. But, there is always a choice. You can choose to make a commitment to exploring what might be possible to open up your heart again. What books are there that you can discover that talks about healing a broken heart? What online resources can you find that can open up a new doorway to how to mend the gaping hole of loss in your heart? What professionals can you connect with that can carefully guide you in a safe way to listen to what your heart needs to repair itself? There are many paths and choices to heal the heart. Make a commitment today to begin to choose one of them.

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Healthy Boundaries Creates Healthy Relationships

couple relationshipsUnderstanding the need for healthy boundaries helps to establish our separateness from others. And in this awareness that “I am separate from you”, I have a boundary. Having a boundary allows a choice.  This produces healthy relationships.  Boundaries help you be conscious of what you need, what works for you and what clearly doesn’t.  We all have basic human needs for love, connection, touch, to feel supported, and so on, as well as knowing ourselves as separate individuals.  If we are not connected to what we do need, we are unable to ask for it or know when we are not getting our needs met.  This denial or blindness creates expectations that are not voiced, so they are not able to be addressed in a relationship.

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